July 2007

 Well it has been 9 months since moving to Minnesota and living full time. There has been a lot of things happen since then.

  My step-daughter from my last marriage started out very angry over the way I left in the middle of the night to persue my transitioning goals. In her eyes, she felt as though I was running out on her and no longer wanted her to be a part of my life. She sent me numerous messages cussing me out and telling me basically what a freak of nature I was. It took a couple months before she calmed down enough to want to listen to my side of the story. After explaining to her that what I did wasn't meant to be hurtful to her in any way and that I still cherished the bond we had together she began to see things more clearly. Our bond together now has grown even stronger and she has become one of the biggest means of support for me.

  Even though she has had a troubled life, (which I don't wish to disclose) she has come a very long way in making improvements to her life. Her biological mother refuses to acknowledge the way she has taken the negatives and completely turned them into positives. And to make matters worse, her mother (my ex) has stopped accepting any type of correspondence from her, basically leaving her feeling like she has no mother anymore. Until now. Since she understands more about transsexualism and the transgender lifestyle, she now accepts and refers to me as her mother. This to me is a honor that I hold dearly. It pleases me to no end that we are close enough that we can sit down and have the kind of talks together that usually only a mother and daughter get to share. That's something she was never able to do with her real mother because of having her past thrown in her face all the time. I on the other hand am able to overlook the mistakes of the past and see the good she has accomplished. Although there are no blood ties between the two of us, I'll always consider her to be a part of me and continue to love her unconditionally.